Seeing the silver lining in a heart break — I thought I had done a break up before. I thought I had actually done several. It was not my first time with a relationship end. I had been broken up with, I had done the breaking up, I had unrequited love, and passions that simply faded. I had never…

My partner and I are no longer together, but I finally know who I am and what I need. — My polyamorous life update is that my partner and I are no longer together. The update is that while I was so unbelievably happy, he was miserable. We eventually figured out we had been doing poly under duress for the last 3 months and it wasn’t working for him. There’s…

So I am having my first ever real break up. Sure, I have absolutely broken up with tons of guys before. Many, many men. But this time was different. I had never been with someone for 5 years. I had never lived with someone. I had never been with someone…

*Be advised: This blog is about consenting adults engaging in BDSM that is consensual and follows the practice of RACK. I have two song lyrics in my head these days: “Yeahhh, one, two princes kneel before you, that’s what I said now. Princes, princes who adore you.” and “The Sadie…

*This blog is intended for experienced kinksters. All stories are consensual and follow RACK practices. Just as being a dominant woman in the bedroom doesn’t automatically make you a feminist, just because you’re a feminist it doesn’t mean all your Femme Domming is feminist. I have recently discovered I have…

*This article is mostly true. All violence is consensual. Partners and scenes described follow RACK, safewords, and the desire to keep humans safe and happy in explorations of sexuality! I had just come out of a semi-vanilla relationship. I had always been a switch. …

Why I define BDSM as a sexual orientation The general definition of “sexual orientation” solely defines this term as the “romantic and sexual attraction” to others. However, these two words parsed apart according to the Google dictionary are: Sexual- “Relating to the instincts, physiological processes, and activities connected with physical…

The things I am doing right, wrong, and asking myself I met my partner when I had two other boyfriends. He wanted me to be monogamous with him, so I ended two multi-year relationships and tried out monogamy. After 4 years of a lot of unhappiness, I finally reached my…

I met my partner on a fetish website. Let me say that again, I met my partner on a fetish website. At that time I had two boyfriends and was regularly attending BDSM dungeons for play parties. So when I met my boyfriend who wasn’t 20 years my senior, and…