I finally did the thing. The thing that most Femme Dommes will probably do at some point in their lives. Pegging. How was it? I literally thought, looking down at my beautiful submissive as I was penetrating him: “I can’t believe I almost went my whole life without experiencing this.” …

He’s basically property and I am good at sharing… “You can loan me out,” he consented excitedly, and at that moment we both knew we had stumbled into a territory we were both going to appreciate. The rules were simple. He had written out a large word document and I…

I never saw this coming but it’s like my heart switched from wanting to be submissive to wanting to be dominant. I went from enjoying submitting and occasionally topping in play, to enjoying dominating and occasionally bottoming in play. I can’t spend too much of my life trying to analyze…

From a therapist in training — The first time I went to therapy I was 15 and suicidal. I was ready to give up on life and end it all. The second time I went to therapy I was 21 and went to a terrible therapist through the university. The third time I went to therapy…

The emotional connection to submissives It turns out, having two D/s relationships is a lot of work. I had always been a casual player. I could juggle 10–12 play relationships in a variety of different forms and this was manageable. So, I embarked on starting two relationships with submissives, thinking…

Another thing I tried with D/s… I wasn’t convinced setting up security cameras around my submissive’s house would be something I was interested in. I knew I was a voyeur, but I also felt like seeing almost everything he did would be a huge invasion of his privacy. Faun, my…

Seeking the balance of the familiar, supportive relationship, with the freedom and exploration that multiple partners can bring — I would like to start this article by saying I just got out of a 5-year monogamous relationship. I am working to heal my avoidant attachment style by staying IN relationships and not isolating myself. …

I want a world where we are honest about our STI status and are aware of the true risks — not the dramatized fear factor narrative — After recently leaving a monogamous relationship, I jumped into polyamory with both feet. I skipped kissing, skipped the sexual part, and did a lot of kink play, fooling around, and snuggling. …

My emotions in general are heightened — In short, for the second time in my life, I have landed another high-paying job where I do almost nothing during the day. I also managed to take on some credit card debt in graduate school. …